“What comes out of your mouth is determined by what goes into your mind.”               ~ Zig Ziglar

An action we (as humans) do every second of every day, even if we have an issue with the function of our brain – we think.

The problem is there are a large number of people who don’t know how to reason or make sense of their thoughts and emotions.

Take a moment today when you realize you’re thinking about something, and try to understand why. What has brought this thought into your mind? What event, conversation or memory has happened to produce this thought and the emotions that go with it?

The art of thinking about how you came to this spot, feeling this emotion (happy, sad, annoyed, intimidated, giddy) is a skill that can be learned. Understand your thinking is influenced by your environment (family, neighborhood, friends), personality and past experiences.

Be aware of how this thought, and the emotions it stirs, can be embraced or changed. We are fortunate to have the ability to reason and think – we just have to take the time. And the time is actually seconds or scant minutes.

Stop. Understand the thought in your mind.

Understand how you came to this spot, and whether you want to keep your thinking on this particular subject unchanged. Are you comfortable how you feel? Are you ashamed how you feel?

You have the ability, at this moment in time, to choose the direction of your mind.

YOU have the ABILITY to choose the direction of your thoughts.

And the direction you choose sets the tone for what kind of human you want to be – depressed, angry, happy and lighthearted.

We all have many pieces that come together to influence our thinking. We all have the choice to change our thoughts.

The first step is to pause and understand why this particular thought is creating this particular emotion.

Be grateful for your thoughts, and that we can change, adjust or embrace them.

After all, it’s an honor to be a part of the human race.


“If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it.”  ~ Erma Bombeck

Ahh, the word that makes the world go around…. And around.

Think about the enormous number of people in the world. Then understand that each and every one of these humans bring their own “perspective” to an idea, creation or opinion. How the heck do we get anything done?

The word perspective allows each of us to be right in our opinions.

It’s the culmination of our upbringing, environment and culture. It’s why we feel the way we do about food, society, relationships – everything that makes up a person’s emotional reactions.

When interacting with others, always keep in mind they bring a different angle of thinking to a situation. It doesn’t mean they are right (or wrong).

Take time to listen to another person’s perspective on a topic. You may be surprised at the revelation their insight brings to the situation.

You may still not agree, but you might now understand. And to understand where a person is coming from is a giant first step to treating each other with new-found respect.

Perspective, understanding and respect – words that could make our world go around so much smoother.

Just listen today. Be quiet, and listen to someone’s views on a subject. Not to change your mind. But to enrich your life.

Learn from another person’s experience. Try to understand and have a conversation knowing it’s ok to have different views and ideas. And know this is not due to inferiority or lack of education.

It’s simply due to perspective.

Our Society

As I watch the extended coverage of the tornado destruction in Moore, OK, I am again amazed and proud of my America.

Despite our everyday differences of ethnicity, religion, politics, sexual preference – any and all of it – we pull together to help each other. In these disastrous circumstances no one sees our self-imposed barriers. People see the need of others. They work side by side – not seeing the differences, but seeing the humanity of their work.

What a blessing our true selves reveal. In others time of need, we put aside our personal needs and biases and give. The revelation is (to me) we (as humans) do truly care (dare I say love) about each other. Every person helping, to their capacity, anyone who needs assistance. For a window of time society’s barriers are dropped and the human spirit is exposed.

This time will pass, as did September 11, Newtown, Boston and every other devastating situation in which America pulled together. Everyone will go back to their day to day lives in a world that is all about “us”.

I’m not passing judgment, as I am not a saint. It’s simply a personal observation that amazes me. In each and every of these heartbreaking moments Americans inspire me by showing their best side.

“Duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully”.
Quote by Zig Ziglar