“What comes out of your mouth is determined by what goes into your mind.”               ~ Zig Ziglar

An action we (as humans) do every second of every day, even if we have an issue with the function of our brain – we think.

The problem is there are a large number of people who don’t know how to reason or make sense of their thoughts and emotions.

Take a moment today when you realize you’re thinking about something, and try to understand why. What has brought this thought into your mind? What event, conversation or memory has happened to produce this thought and the emotions that go with it?

The art of thinking about how you came to this spot, feeling this emotion (happy, sad, annoyed, intimidated, giddy) is a skill that can be learned. Understand your thinking is influenced by your environment (family, neighborhood, friends), personality and past experiences.

Be aware of how this thought, and the emotions it stirs, can be embraced or changed. We are fortunate to have the ability to reason and think – we just have to take the time. And the time is actually seconds or scant minutes.

Stop. Understand the thought in your mind.

Understand how you came to this spot, and whether you want to keep your thinking on this particular subject unchanged. Are you comfortable how you feel? Are you ashamed how you feel?

You have the ability, at this moment in time, to choose the direction of your mind.

YOU have the ABILITY to choose the direction of your thoughts.

And the direction you choose sets the tone for what kind of human you want to be – depressed, angry, happy and lighthearted.

We all have many pieces that come together to influence our thinking. We all have the choice to change our thoughts.

The first step is to pause and understand why this particular thought is creating this particular emotion.

Be grateful for your thoughts, and that we can change, adjust or embrace them.

After all, it’s an honor to be a part of the human race.

Parents day

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“Remember that your children are not your own, but are lent to you by the Creator.”   ~ Mohawk proverb

Everyone has days, as a parent, you would give a paycheck to have access to the User’s Manual to the children you love. Particularly the child that thinks you are the worst person in the entire world and there is no way you can possibly understand them.

I need to begin with letting you know I love both my son and daughter with a complete understanding of who they are.

Having watched them grow and develop their (very different) personalities from the first breath they drew, they both mirror my and are totally foreign to my thought process. But I have come to appreciate the adults they have grown to be. Both have taken a significantly different path in their lives; but each lives a…

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“If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it.”  ~ Erma Bombeck

Ahh, the word that makes the world go around…. And around.

Think about the enormous number of people in the world. Then understand that each and every one of these humans bring their own “perspective” to an idea, creation or opinion. How the heck do we get anything done?

The word perspective allows each of us to be right in our opinions.

It’s the culmination of our upbringing, environment and culture. It’s why we feel the way we do about food, society, relationships – everything that makes up a person’s emotional reactions.

When interacting with others, always keep in mind they bring a different angle of thinking to a situation. It doesn’t mean they are right (or wrong).

Take time to listen to another person’s perspective on a topic. You may be surprised at the revelation their insight brings to the situation.

You may still not agree, but you might now understand. And to understand where a person is coming from is a giant first step to treating each other with new-found respect.

Perspective, understanding and respect – words that could make our world go around so much smoother.

Just listen today. Be quiet, and listen to someone’s views on a subject. Not to change your mind. But to enrich your life.

Learn from another person’s experience. Try to understand and have a conversation knowing it’s ok to have different views and ideas. And know this is not due to inferiority or lack of education.

It’s simply due to perspective.

I didn’t know her name


Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.  ~ Mother Teresa

Waiting to hear my name over the intercom. A controlled sense of dread. I don’t want to go.

Across the room sits a dignified elderly woman. She quietly talks to the woman sitting beside her. I catch her glance and she smiles. A soft smile.

I hear her tell her companion this is her initial radiation. She will be taking chemotherapy and radiation treatments at the same time. I personally know it will be an extremely difficult time. I finished my chemo before radiation started. I wasn’t sure I’d make it through chemo at my age, let alone both treatments at the same time.

They call my name. Time for my radiation treatment .

I see her the following day at my next scheduled treatment. She is called to the back before me this day.

After my treatment I walk through the facility exit and see her standing outside. I’m compelled to stop and see how she’s doing.

She takes my breath away as she calmly says there is nothing that can be done for her. Her time here is now very short. No further treatments are scheduled. Time is not her friend.

We stand in the warm sun. She knows I understand her emotion. Peaceful acceptance met with her stoic dignity.

I gently but firmly hug her. I don’t want to let go.

I tell her I love her.

She says, “I know.”

I turn and walk away.

I don’t know her name.

Game On

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself – ‘I have lived through this horror, I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you can not do.”

~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Friday my life changed – I found out I have breast cancer.

Game on.